Women sacrifice more in the relationship than a man would.
Angela, 31, was talented at figure skating. She said, “every time I got on ice I would lose myself and feel alive. This made me happy.” Within the first two years after her marriage her husband gave her a choice. It was either spending time skating or spend more time with him. Angela sacrificed skating to spend more time with him.
Nicole, is married with three beautiful children. At aged 14 her dad walked out on her family. Her mom and siblings took care of her. She was close to her family and loved having them around.Her husband Mike did not feel comfortable around her family. He was the only child and grew up distant from his parents. Mike gave her an ultimatum. She was only allowed to talk to her family on the phone once a month and visit them once a year. To keep the peace and avoid conflict she complied with Mike’s request but secretly contacted them.
Many women act like Angela and Nicole. They give up their hobbies or friendships and turn away from the people whom they adore so that they don’t lose the man they love.
When your marriage is in trouble and you are find it difficult to overcome your problems, you are naturally bound to feel a bit of anger or resentment.
You sacrificed so much for him but he does not acknowledge this. He does not see what you have given up for him.
He expects more from you.
The communication breaks down and you don’t know how to solve the problems.
Every time you sacrifice the things you love you chip away at your own self esteem. You give away a little of you. When you give up everything, this type of loss is followed by anger and depression.
Men love it when you sacrifice for them. They will never resist that.
When you sacricfice, they expect you to continue to act that way, because they think you enjoy it.
Michael said, “i’m not sure what my wife is so upset with me. She makes all family decisions when we go on vacation. I thought she like doing that stuff. Now she is angry that I don’t take the time to book vacations and trips with her. I am confused.”
That is a source of major conflict in the marriage. You sacrifice and don’t understand why he will not compromise and do the same for you.
When you keep sacrificing your happiness and needs there will always be an expectation for you to continue to behave that way. When there are major problems in your marriage and now you push back or disagree your husband will think you are trying to be difficult or you need to change.
He does not see that you sacrificed and you are the same person.
First take care of yourself. Make time for all the activities that fills you up with joy and happiness irrespective of the problems you face in the moment.
Then when you take care of yourself he will see you as a confident person. There is no man who is not attracted to confidence. Then work on your marriage problems.
You deserve that.